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Grieving

 

Grieving is a natural process that can take place after any kind of loss. When a loved one dies this can be a very overpowering emotion that has to run its course. There is a whole succession of different feelings that can take some time to go through and it should not be hurried. For some time following the death of someone who was close, most people feel totally stunned, a feeling of disbelief is common, even if the death had been expected, say after a long period of illness. However, this feeling of emotional numbness can help in dealing with the various practical arrangements that have to be made.

To overcome this it can help to visit the chapel of rest, otherwise it is not until the actual funeral that the reality of what has happened finally hits. Although it may be distressing it is important to say good-bye to the ones we love. Guilt is often experienced if a sense of relief is felt when someone has died, particularly after a distressing illness.

The phrase “time is a great healer” is in most cases certainly true. However, the pain of losing a loved one never entirely disappears, nor should it be expected to.

The different stages of grief tend to overlap and can show themselves in various ways. There is no standard way of grieving, as we, being individuals, have our own ways of dealing with all of life’s trials, not least the loss of someone we love.

Grief in
Children and
Adolescents

Generally children do not understand the meaning of death until they are three or four years old. Even in infancy, clearly children grieve and feel great distress.

Children experience the passage of time differently to adults and can therefore appear to overcome grief quite quickly. However, children in their early school years may need reassuring as they often blame themselves for one reason or another.

It is important that the grief of a young person is not overlooked, as they will often not want to burden parents by talking about their feelings.

GriefChat

Most people expect to be very upset or distressed when someone close to them has died. What takes many people by surprise is how strong the emotions can be, how they can change very quickly, and how long they last. People around you may seem to think you should be ‘back to normal’ after a few weeks or months. You might appear to be your usual self to other people, but you know that on the inside, you’re not even sure what normal is anymore.

Everyone grieves in a way that is unique to them and their relationship with the person who has died. Well–intentioned people may say to you, ‘Time is a great healer.’ Sometimes, however, it can seem that life is more difficult as the weeks and months go by.

We know that no one can understand exactly what your loss feels like to you. But we do understand that it’s sometimes easier to talk to someone outside of your friends and family about grief and the impact of bereavement on your life and this is why we offer the GriefChat service.

GriefChat was created by bereavement experts and by clicking on the GriefChat box below, you can chat directly with a specially trained bereavement counsellor. GriefChat counsellors are experienced in supporting bereaved people and will listen to your story, explore how your grief is affecting you and help you to find any additional support you might need.

GriefChat is a completely free service and is available Monday–Friday,9 am–9 pm(except Bank Holidays). GriefChat provides emotional support for bereaved people, access to trained bereavement counsellors and referral to other specialist bereavement services.

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